In my interactions with anti-trans people, I've noticed that many of them deny the existence of gender identity (including their own I would assume). As a cis man, I must admit that I am not really consciously aware of my gender identity either, but can perceive its effects on my behaviour and presentation. I guess it's subconscious and instinctive?
This is in stark contrast to what transgender people report: real, vivid, persistent feelings of being in the wrong body. I assume such knowledge about themselves cannot be possible without an awareness of their gender identity. I have no reason to disbelieve them, but the inconsistency seems to demand an explanation.
Is it simply that their lived experience of constant incongruity between their felt gender and biological sex forces it to the forefront of their minds? While on the other hand, maybe cis people take their gender identity for granted because they feel no separation between it and their biological sex. (When I do try to pinpoint my gender identity, I usually fall into the trap of thinking about my sexual orientation instead, something -- as a man -- I am almost always consciously aware of. ;)
So, long story short, has anyone else ever noticed this? Has any research ever been done on how strongly different groups of people feel their gender identity? Or am I (and those anti-trans folks) missing the point somehow? Can one be trained to notice it, sort of like a gender meditation? Or are there canonical questions that professionals use to tease it out of patients?