Timeline for Emotional detachment as a reaction can be considered an aggressive behavior?
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| Feb 9, 2016 at 15:46 | vote | accept | Revious | ||
| Feb 8, 2016 at 14:57 | comment | added | Michael | Whether someone is in the wrong in a particular case is a very complex question. You would need to understand the entire balance of the relationship, on all fronts. Sometimes each party reciprocates in different forms, so looking at just one element can be misleading. As a result, relationships can be easily abused and misrepresented, especially to the outside world where not all the facts are known. | |
| Feb 8, 2016 at 14:52 | comment | added | Michael | It would be incomplete to fail to recognise that there are other types of reciprocity that people abuse in relationships. Any time one party is greedy, trying to gain as much as they can without concern for the other party, there is a lack of proper reciprocity. These may resolve around money, work, chores, affection or care for the other's family members, reproduction, and more. Greed comes in many forms. Emotional greed or failing to consider the other's arguments is one such form. | |
| Feb 8, 2016 at 14:47 | comment | added | Michael | My general answer was with the idea that the person doing the ignoring was doing so in response to an unsolicited attack. This type of attack is common, especially when dealing with sadistic people. In the case of dysfunctional or manipulative relationships, there is a lot of give-and-take, and there are a lot of expectations of reciprocity that may be neglected by abusive parties, who may be narcissistic, borderline, or otherwise. This case of which you speak I see as a case of intentionally neglected reciprocity. With a stranger, there should be no such expectation since nothing is owed. | |
| Feb 8, 2016 at 14:40 | comment | added | Michael | In those cases, there is an underlying agenda for which emotional detachment is one of several tools being applied toward a particular end. While the acts of lacking empathy and responding non-emotionally (or not at all) are benign in and of themselves, they could be used after verbal or another type of abuse to amplify the effects of the former. A troll, for example, will often (1) say something offensive, (2) wait for and receive a response, and then (3) respond without empathy or admission of reason -- thereby "invalidating" any legitimate arguments. | |
| Feb 8, 2016 at 13:26 | comment | added | Revious | Thanks your answer is really balanced. But may I ask another question. Narcissists and borderline do often hurt people making them feel impotent through emotional detachment, silent threatment and other kind of social rejection or manipulative behaviour. How can those behaviour not be considered as hostile and aggressive? | |
| Feb 8, 2016 at 8:43 | history | answered | Michael | CC BY-SA 3.0 |