I think my question is a little tricky to express but i observed this kind of behaviour pattern many times and want to know if its coined in cognitive scienes.

To give an example, think about an employer. The employer itself has problems with Time Management. He often misses appointments and arrives too late. 
None of his employees have this kind of problem, the Team itself is well structured.   
However, the employer forces the usage of time tracking mechanisms over his team.

Another example i can think of is, when a person has a drinking problem. The person then tries to manipulate her friends and family to avoid bars, parties and clubs at all, because these are the places were people tend to abuse alcohol.

The pattern is see , is that a person is unable to deal with a particular personal problem and obsessively tries to make sure that others dont get anywhere near that same problem. 
The measures to achieve this protection are often not rational and exaggerated.

I understand, that on a healthy level, the mentioned behaviour is beneficial. For example when i expierence a very painful situation and get a chance to teach people how they could avoid that experience, i would vigorously do so.

But i wonder if there is a term, that describes, when this behaviour is irrationally applied.