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How does a woman reject an unsuitable man?

I'm interested in the mechanism behind how a woman can reject a man once already in a relationship.

I've done some research and stumbled upon this issue described by multiple different people, which makes me think it has some biological basis.

The issue goes as follows: within a certain time after a relationship starts, 6 months to 4 years an otherwise very desirable woman starts to have explosive anger outbursts over trivial issues and big issues alike. You can read a sample story here:http://members.lovingyou.com/showthread.php?s=54983b33814a0b7a3c54b94d33da2384&postid=2818366

The content of these temper outbursts does not matter, what defines them is:

  • very rapid onset (15 seconds or less from baseline to angry)
  • long duration (up to 3 hours to flare up again)
  • near total suppression of logical ability (can't see logic or reason)
  • total shut down of empathy (makes very hurtful comments)
  • significant drop in self awareness (can't see that acting like this is not appropriate and feels self justified)
  • does not want to be touched
  • pushes the man out or continues the episode till the man can't take it any more and leaves
  • poor recollection of what happened during the episode later
  • likely to occur after 1 month of cohabitation
  • the couple is having sex together

I've additionally gathered that a man in these relationship assumes more "feminine" role, while the woman is more "masculine". I've seen reports of a man bending over backwards to please such woman for 4 years, yet this does not help.

Otherwise the couple say they still love each other and can function normally.

The almost universally given advice is: run, flee, end it. So it appears that behavior is aimed at and quite successful at forcing separation.

This makes me ask: Is this kind of rejection some form of a biological defense mechanism by which a woman pushes an unsuitable mate out?