I'm interested in the mechanism behind how a woman can reject a man once already in a relationship.
I've done some research and stumbled upon this issue described by multiple different people, which makes me think it has some biological basis.
The issue goes as follows: within a certain time after a relationship starts, 6 months to 4 years an otherwise very desirable woman starts to have explosive anger outbursts over trivial issues and big issues alike. You can read a sample story here:http://members.lovingyou.com/showthread.php?s=54983b33814a0b7a3c54b94d33da2384&postid=2818366
The content of these temper outbursts does not matter, what defines them is:
- very rapid onset (15 seconds or less from baseline to angry)
- long duration (up to 3 hours to flare up again)
- near total suppression of logical ability (can't see logic or reason)
- total shut down of empathy (makes very hurtful comments)
- significant drop in self awareness (can't see that acting like this is not appropriate and feels self justified)
- does not want to be touched
- pushes the man out or continues the episode till the man can't take it any more and leaves
- poor recollection of what happened during the episode later
- likely to occur after 1 month of cohabitation
- the couple is having sex together
I've additionally gathered that a man in these relationship assumes more "feminine" role, while the woman is more "masculine". I've seen reports of a man bending over backwards to please such woman for 4 years, yet this does not help.
Otherwise the couple say they still love each other and can function normally.
The almost universally given advice is: run, flee, end it. So it appears that behavior is aimed at and quite successful at forcing separation.
This makes me ask: Is this kind of rejection some form of a biological defense mechanism by which a woman pushes an unsuitable mate out?