I'm attempting to write a questionnaire for people who need help with reconciling their differences. In that questionnaire I can refer to the person who's filling it out as "you" but I need a term that I can use to refer to the "other party" in a generic way. For example, that other party could be a business partner, customer, spouse, sibling, parent, child, or even a friend. I've explored words such as "antagonist", "rival", and "adversary", but I'd like to find a term that's respectful, generic, relatively neutral, and that doesn't evoke dismissive emotions. I'm curious to learn what term(s) other people might have used in such a situation and how well the chosen term was received.

I think that the term that I'm looking for should make sense in the following sentences:

When was the last time you spoke to your <term>?

Did your <term> ever apologize for their role in this incident?

If the roles were reversed, and you had done to your <term> what your <term> did to you, what action(s) do you think you might be willing to take to reconcile the situation?

  • $\begingroup$ This paper just uses "other person". $\endgroup$
    – Arnon Weinberg
    Commented Jul 5 at 18:34
  • $\begingroup$ Thanks - but do we want to risk of further overloading the acronym "OP"? (joke) $\endgroup$
    – phil1008
    Commented Jul 5 at 18:48


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