Since there is not sociology stackexhange to my knowledge, I believed it would be the best to post this question here.
From sociological theory it is conceptualized by Erving Goffman that individuals play this theatrical role around other individuals or in public space. But this had me thinking about the phrase "You are making a scene!" when someone drops their act, in for example, a heated discussion between two individuals (often between a romantic couple to my experience). But if they were both playing a role, and one individual alarming the other that they are "making a scene", would imply that they are performing an act/role infront of others. But this wouldn't make sense since he/she is dropping their act/role? Or should I immagine society as a theatre in which all its actors are trying to act in such a way to be unnoticed, such that, you as the observer of the theatrical play, observes it as a whole. And thus when someone "makes a scene" it shifts all the attention towards that individual and breaks the script of the collective agreed upon theatrical play?
Where does this phrase come from and how should it be interpreted given sociological theory?