I was watching Shutter Island when I first heard this expression "Defense Mechanism" Now I'm wondering how those could be used to deal more effectively and healthily with toxic/negative people.
For instance, a toxic coworker who is openly provocative and purposefully to trigger a negative reaction from her victims in order to escalate the negativity cycle. (hopefully that sentence makes sense)
I was thinking, this could be dealt with in 3 steps : Step 1 : analyse how the victim reacted on the attack to determine her defense mechanism choice Step 2 : assume the attack may come another time but this time be prepared for a proper response Step 3 (optionally) : analyse the attacker defense mechanism to improve step 2 with a more efficient reaction
I was hoping there would be a book on this. But anyway, what do you guys think of this ?