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I would like to find a book that would be helpful to a codependent person with the following criteria.

  1. The book focuses on relationships with needy people who don't care for themselves, instead of focusing on relationships with substance abusers.
  2. The book emphasizes leaving and avoiding these kinds of relationships instead of helping the reader improve these relationships.
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  • $\begingroup$ Can I ask why emphasise leaving the relationship rather than helping the reader with their co-dependency tendencies? $\endgroup$ – Chris Rogers Mar 19 at 12:12
  • $\begingroup$ As a codependency myself, I really want to help you. I can't help you this, but if you want to talk, we can have a talk in Psychology & Neuroscience Chat $\endgroup$ – Ooker Mar 19 at 12:24
  • $\begingroup$ @ChrisRogers The same reason alcoholics shouldn't hang around in bars. Helpless people are too tempting for me. $\endgroup$ – recovering codependent Mar 19 at 14:29
  • $\begingroup$ @Ooker Thank you so much for your offer. Would you like to let me know a time when you will be in the chat room and I will meet you there? $\endgroup$ – recovering codependent Mar 20 at 14:36
  • $\begingroup$ unfortunately, it seems that you need to register this account? I open the chatroom here chat.stackexchange.com/rooms/91330/codependency $\endgroup$ – Ooker Mar 21 at 2:07
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Most any book on codependency will mention substance abuse, if for no other reason than the concept began there. Treatment of codependency is about empowering the person who is the caregiver to stop that sort of behavior. The best book I can recommend (I'm a LMHC) is Codependent No More. I would also suggest looking at Attachment Theory, as some researchers believe it can encompass the problems ascribed to codependency in a wider-reaching theoretical approach. To that end you might read Attached.

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Maybe check out the work of Pia Mellody. It's nearly impossible to speak about codependency outside of the context of addiction. That being said, Pia comes at codependency from the perspective of trauma and attachment

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