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I'm reading some stories about teens, usually young or new adults who are abused by their partners. When they attempt to confront the abuser's parents, they just say 'You just have to learn to not set them off especially if they're high.' Or, 'You just have to learn to keep your mouth shut.' Usually the abused person might say that they have a right to say what they want to say. The abuser's parents might accuse them of today's kids being spoiled by the legal system.

Is something going on? Denial? Predictable thinking patterns? Past life experiences? Stockholm Syndrome?

If any references to such articles exist that would be excellent.

  • $\begingroup$ I'm not sure your question title and the body of your question ask the same thing. One seems to be what parents think, the other what the children do (or both parents and children).Also, I don't see how this context is going to be different from any other in which people make excuses. $\endgroup$ – Fizz Jul 8 '18 at 23:19
  • $\begingroup$ For the latter, see ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/3559894 for instance. $\endgroup$ – Fizz Jul 8 '18 at 23:36
  • $\begingroup$ My question sis really about why parents think that way--in why they defend their adult child. If it helps any, could I say where I am getting my questions from, like what book, etc? bOften we would have psychology discussions in my literature class to interpret emotions and reactions to them. $\endgroup$ – HeavenlyHarmony Jul 9 '18 at 0:21
  • $\begingroup$ @HeavenlyHarmony - on your question on books in the comments I would say yes. It might help to know where the information is coming from. If nothing else, it would give context. $\endgroup$ – Chris Rogers Jul 9 '18 at 6:22
  • $\begingroup$ I think it's going to be extremely difficult to generalize; rather, in any circumstance some combination of the aspects you describe and others contributes. But if what you are looking for is something that merely touches on all these possibilities rather than an actual "answer" then I would expect that exists. $\endgroup$ – Bryan Krause Jul 9 '18 at 15:21

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